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Love at first sight appears to be just quite strong physical grip at first sight. Hi, my name is Dr. Zana. They, I wished to speak with you about a phenomenon that is extremely well familiar. We are to almost anyone in the Western world and outside, but you can have experienced that yourself. And even if you harbor 't, you've probably heard of it and know of it love at first sight, right?

It's been portrayed in the arts and literature for at least 3000 years. And today something like one in three people in the Western world say that they've experienced that. At least once that basically they met someone and the first time they met them, maybe not in the first second that they met them, but the first time they met the maybe spent however much time they spent together and they experienced the love at first sight.

People report this.

They tend to report more passion, more sort of interest in their partner. And then those who don't recall having begun with love it for sites. So, you know, it feels like it might be a fantastic point to have a relationship beginning this way. But We don't really much know about what this is really love.

Like, are we talking about like actual love or is this just a very strong desire or lost, or just physical attraction, which then people, once they start dating and things are going well and, and it's, you know, seemed like it's gonna work out. They kind of retroactively.

They they're basically projecting their very strong feelings of love, uh, currently to what they were experiencing or feeling back when they met.

Is there different types of love that people can experience? Probably the most.

And according to the triangular theory of love it, it's just that basically there are three components that can make up love, passion, intimacy, and commitment. Intimacy is the mutual kind of opening up sharing emotional closeness attachment that you can feel for somebody that you're, that you're close with passion is that right?

Yeah.

So for example, the, the, the, the, the love that we all strive to achieve in our romantic relationships is the one that has very high levels of all three of passion, intimacy, and commitment, and that we call consummate love. All right then, but, but unfortunately we don't always have that in our intimate relationships, whether in the start or later on, we end up in relationships that may have a bit less of some of these components than other elements.

For example, a very common experience Informative post for a lot of people is that which we call companion at love. The love which has high closeness, higher dedication. So this really is someone that you are feeling quite closely attached to quite dedicated, to staying in a relationship with, however there's not a great deal of passion. And that very often happens to amorous relationships over time after people have gone , you know, a couple of years or maybe decades of, of being together and the passion has kind of subsided, but the closeness and devotion have remained high.

Another type of love is empty adore, for example, that has high devotion. To be with somebody, but no fire, no familiarity. For example, uh, arranged marriages if they begin. They can have this, this caliber because these people don't really know each other. They can possibly have a lot of intimacy. They don't necessarily have a great deal of passion.

They might have never been seen each other before seen each other once without lots of, you know, passion, sparks, uh, occurring, but their families have. Decided they ought to be together. They've committed to obeying their family's wishes and they're very dedicated to staying together and building a family together and that, even though there's 's no enthusiastic intimacy, that doesn't mean that that passionate intimacy can't happen later.

But at the start, it's 's what we call empty adore. Okay. These are some of the types. Again, you have nine unique combinations. If you understand, both of these are low or high, and this is low and, and, and so on, but. When we're thinking about what love at first sight may be. It's kind of unlikely that you'd have high intimacy.

It's also sort of unlikely that you would have high devotion because those items usually take a very long time to develop. They're not instantaneous. However, the passion component could be potentially instantaneous. You see someone and the fire element is sexual desire mixed in with. George someone appealing or that you find attractive mixed in with all the halo effect that people add to appealing people.

The, the halo effect of positiveness that we add to people that we think are hot. Like we, for no specific reason other than those people are sexy. We believe they're also fantastic people and smart and competent and nice and caring and compassionate and blah, blah, blah, all these other items we have a tendency to assign to fine people, even if they overlook 't deserve it, just because they're good looking so.

That initial passion could potentially be a combination of these things. So maybe what we're seeing in love at first sight is this very high passion, relatively low intimacy and commitment, which is also the infatuation type of love that people experienced in the early stages of love. When they're just kind of getting to know each other when there's really high craving.

Four. So high passion, high sexual desire, high, high craving for closeness with this person, even though you don't necessarily know each other very well. Hence the closeness and the commitment to be with each other is not in a super high degree. So, alright. All of this is, is an intro into, uh, this study that was looking at.

What type of qualities does that experience of love at first sight have and how comparable is because of the love that people report towards longterm partners? What this group of Dutch researchers , they studied, um, almost 400 Dutch and German young people. Around three distinct studies in the initial two research participants were presented with photographs of six to nine people they were assumed to imagine meeting at a speed dating event.

And then they asked the response to exactly what extent did they felt love at first sight and the three love elements towards every one of these photos and to potential real people. And then those participants who were in long-term relationships were also requested to report how much love and, and over these 3 components, they felt for their current partner.

And then in research three, the researchers really organized. Three distinct real life dating occasions. One was a conventional speed dating event. One was a bar hopping event where a bunch of these new people who were going to meet each other, uh, when from bar to bar and invested , I don't know, like an hour or 20 minutes to something at, um, at the different, um, at the different bars, getting to know each other.

And then there was another kind of social gathering event where people kind of met new people over food and drinks and. Yeah, these, these were all single participants that got to meet other participants who were hopefully looking for, uh, partners of some kind interacted with them for a little while.

And then they answered the same questions about whether they experience love at first sight and also the, the different components of passion, intimacy, and commitment, and that they felt towards each of the people that they got to interact with personally. So across the three studies across the almost 400 participants that they had, um, asked both the online and the offline studies.

Love at first sight was reported 49 times by 32 different individuals that makes up about 8% of the total sample of participants because right. People could have, um, in each study participants. So, uh, photo photos of, uh, of, um, more than one person or interacted in real life with more than one person. So they could have potentially experienced love at first sight or thought they experience love it for side for more than one person.

So. They, um, about 8% of the participants experienced love at first sight. And remember for some of these people, all they did was they just saw a photo of someone and were asked to imagine meeting this person at a speed dating event. Whereas some of these other people actually met people in person and got to interact with them in person, but even so it's pretty remarkable that even at this very basic level of.

Knowledge or interaction with somebody else, even through just a photo. Seeing a photo of them is enough to trigger the sense of love at first sight in a small percentage of participants in this particular study. So some people definitely feel love it for side, for someone that they barely know. Yeah. An interesting side note and perhaps a sad side note is that of all of those people in the, in the real life interaction study that reported love at first sight for somebody that they interacted with, none of those was reciprocated.

So none of those people also said that they had experienced love at first sight for the person who experienced that for them. So, um, no crazy sparks on both sides mutually, uh, were, were, uh, started in this particular study, but you know, who knows? Um, that obviously happens sometimes in, in a mutual sort of way, just not in this way, particular study.

Okay. But so the, the key question was. Is there evidence that love for sight has the qualities of love in the answer in this study was no, it did not. The amount of passion, intimacy, and commitment. And that was reported for the people that the participants said. I experienced love at first sight. They all hovered around the neutral,