Sexual Abuse--Have You Ever Wondered?

Posted by Miisoo Doll on April 27th, 2021

This provocative question/thought begs an answer. Most people, who have asked themselves or someone else asked that question often answer with "Yes, I have wondered, but: "I don't know who it would have been." "My Dad would never do such a thing." "I don't think so." "If I was, I would remember." Or many other variations that leave the question petite sex doll.

Having worked with hundreds of sexual abuse survivors in the healing process for the past twenty-five years, the answer to the question--Have You Ever Wondered If You Were Sexually Abused?--is 99% inevitably, 'Yes.' How can you be so sure, you might ask? The certainty lies within the unconscious mind. The unconscious mind is where 'truth' of memory is stored.

Furthermore, it is the unconscious mind's job to push the memory into the conscious mind--thus, if the person 'wonders' if they were sexually abused even though they have no conscious memory--it is a clue that the unconscious mind is pushing the information to the conscious mind, so that the wounds can be healed.

What can one do if one wonders, but doesn't have any definitive memory? Many people believe that 'What you don't know won't hurt you.' This myth has proliferated many centuries and doesn't hold true for any issue. Because of a child's innocence and often dependence on her/his perpetrator, sexual abuse is not only a violation of his/her body, emotional and spiritual boundaries, it is a violation of his/her trust. In this respect, the sexual aspect is secondary. The person she/he trusted with his/her innocence, instead of giving her love, has taken what she/her wanted from big booty sex doll/her, terrorized, hurt, humiliated, controlled, disgraced and shattered his/her perception of him/herself and the relationship with the perpetrator. Although the perpetrator emphasized his love for her/him, he/she perpetrated a violence that did not require force. In this violence, described as love, he robbed the child of the opportunity to develop into a healthy, adjusted adult. The perpetrator abrogated his/her responsibility to care for and protect the child.

This insidious betrayal so profoundly affects a child's sense of trust that the survivor works mightily to regain fully what is a birthright. Whether the assault occurred once or several times is irrelevant, since the damage is incurred immediately. This damage is profound, extensive and pervasive. Sexual abuse and incest affect every aspect of human development. A soul injury forms as the result of sexual abuse: an injury that time, education, job, money, marriage, children, moving, or divorce cannot heal. An injury so deeply wounding and traumatizing that it requires more resolution than reading books, self-help groups or undertaking intellectual analysis. Children or adults who have been sexually abused, do not 'get over' the devastation as they would with the measles or a virus. Without sexual abuse recovery, millions of adult sexual abuse/incest survivors continue to bear the emotional scars.