Why Men Should Watch Porn For Women

Posted by Gonzalez Romero on May 21st, 2021

Yes, pornography can enhance your sex life and your connection. You just have to watch the right kind.

The things he watched, he advised, followed a very specific formula:"reveal a nude woman, followed closely by close-up shots of her breasts and vagina, then show her going down on him until he relentlessly pounds into her."

Also like most men, Alex took many of his sexual cues from pornography, and attempted to replicate what he'd seen when he had sex with his then-wife. But their sex life finally became such a massive supply of conflict and miscommunication they eventually divorced.

After Alex got remarried, he decided he wanted to be"the very best lover" his brand new wife had ever needed. So he began reading women's erotica for a way to"research what women need." He was surprised to discover something which's probably obvious to many women, but was shocking for himporn for a female audience was a lot different than porn for guys. What was surprising? He liked it -- even more than the porn he'd been observing for several years.

"Porn for girls" is a relatively new genre, but it is becoming extremely popular. Nearly one-third of women between the ages of 18 and 26 have reported seeing porn, and according to no more reliable a barometer of American sexual preferences than Pornhub Insights ,"porn for women" was the top trending search of 2017, rising by 1400% that year. Director Erika Lust's website XConfessions also features short films inspired by actual women's sexual fantasies, shot and made by a predominantly female team .

Broadly speaking,"if people say'pornography for women,' what they actually mean is pornography that does not have much focus on penetration, where the gender is more linked, frequently story-driven, or'softer,''' says renowned adult film director Jacky St. James . "There is a concentrate more on gender where there's a lot of foreplay, kissing, link. The light is more light and airy. The men are more attractive (conventionally speaking) and also the girls are more natural in body type and overall style." ("Porn for girls" also tends to feature a lot of lesbian sex: girls are 445 percent more likely than men to search for "girl on girl" pornography , based on some 2014 report, even though they mostly self-identify as directly.)

Porn for women also tends to focus on the couple's mutual enjoyment, St. James adds. "There's much more of a focus on realistic-looking climaxes and general connection." Unlike POV porn scenes, in which the man's head is often cut off and"it is just a thrusting chest," porn for women generally features"more of the guy's involvement in the scene. You see his face, his expressions also."

Much like Alex, Will*, 35, says that he started searching for "female-friendly" porn since he wished to become a better sex partner because of his wife. "I did not have a lot of sexual experience once we got serious. She never complained, but I wanted to be certain I made her feel as special, fulfilled, and loved as I did," he states.

Will was amazed to discover he enjoyed it more than the pornography he usually watched. "The relations between the actors seem more genuine. . The couples even smile at each other. There is fewer acrobatic places, so the actors really have time to enjoy each other. I've found the whole thing a turn-on."

Gabe*, 32, says watching porn produced by and for girls helped him gain a better comprehension of exactly what turns his spouses on. "It focuses on facial expressions and whole body motions, whereas traditional porn concentrates on penetration and jamming your own genitals into each other," he states.

While most mainstream porn videos geared toward guys skipped foreplay entirely and jumped directly into penetrative sexual intercourse, Gabe found that pornography for girls focused more on sexual intercourse and clitoral stimulation, which studies have shown is critical to helping women achieve orgasm. "I absolutely prefer it on any other [type of pornography ]," he says.

Obviously, just like guys, women's sexual tastes differ tremendously, so there's not one single definition of what"porn for women" really is: while one girl may be into narrative-driven, high-budget, soft-core content, another might enjoy watching rougher, kinkier, more extreme fare.

" romantic porn, romantic xxx, hot romantic sex, porn for women cannot lump an whole gender into a certain sort of pornography," St. James says. "I know quite a few women who like hardcore porn. I know a lot of girls directing this fashion of pornography because it appeals to them. If you're a girl that enjoys rougher sex, becoming choked, rape fantasies, etc., then you are completely normal. Just because we do not call that'pornography for girls' doesn't mean it is not porn for ladies."

Blake*, 41, agrees. "My spouse said a lot of porn for women seemed too soft. "It definitely wasn't for her"

But even if your spouse is switched away by quote-unquote"female-friendly" erotica, getting to know their taste in pornography can make it easier to discuss what turns them on. It can also help guys explore their own sexual preferences and preferences. "My partner shared that she enjoys watching male gay porn or bisexual porn with male-on-male interaction. I heard quite a bit, to tell the truth," adds Ryan,* who is 38. "It allowed us to discuss situations and desires that we might not have been comfortable talking prior."

For Alex, seeing porn for girls has completely changed the way he's sex in real life. Thanks to his research, he feels much more confident and conducive to his spouse's needs during intercourse. "I try very hard to remain present in the moment together," he says. "I also don't do exactly the jackhammer thing that seemingly a great deal of guys do." That said, Alex notes he has not been watching much pornography of any kind lately. He says he is too busy doing the real thing.

*Names are changed to permit topics to talk freely on personal matters.