6 Things to Tell Your Children When They Enter Their TeensPosted by Nikil on September 27th, 2017 Being a parent of a teenager is really a strategic job! When your kid was just a toddler, your job involved protecting him/her from visible dangers like falling from the bed, cutting the finger with scissors, eating the wrong food, and so on. The job was quite easy as the dangers were well-anticipated and kids were ready to take your word! When they enter their teens, the dangers are less apparent but more dangerous. The worst thing about this age is that teens never want an advice, at least not from their parents! “Teenagers are the most misunderstood people. They are treated like children and expected to act like adults” - Anonymous This is the phase and it will also pass well if you know what to tell your teenager. To make things easier, here are the 6 things you may tell your teen and rest assured that they won’t let you down!
This is the age when trust overpowers love. Your teen would be happy to know that you as a parent trust him and that would make him think twice before he is on the verge of breaching your trust. Show your faith in his endeavors and he will surely succeed with flying colors. Teenage is quite vulnerable to odds and getting the parental support in this difficult time makes your teen stronger. As a parent, you don’t need to confront your kid or show disbelief in whatever he does. Believe in him and see how magical it is for your relation and his success.
Children seek importance and acceptance in teenage. They really enjoy being treated as adults. Make them feel that respect and significance by asking for their views whenever you are deciding something for the family, home, or even for yourself. Tell them that their decision matters. The decision can be as small as finalizing a menu for the guest or as big as deciding the model of your new car. This will work, however, if you ask for the opinion then be prepared for the weirdest response sometimes. Even if you don’t work on your kid’s opinion, then make sure that you make them understand well before doing it another way around, else this trick will go against you. After all, being a parent isn’t a child’s play!
There are many moments when your kid would make you proud, however, you miss to admit it just because you don’t feel it is needed. Actually, it is very much needed. You need to tell your teen every time you feel proud about his gesture like the care he showed for you, his behavior with family, the way he handled some situation, his relationship with a friend, or just a polite statement. It can be anything that you can be proud of, and for your kid it matters a lot. Tell them “I am proud of you” and stay prepared to notice positive changes.
It is very much obvious that as a parent, you will always be with your kids, but sometimes our actions depict a different story. We have our own dreams for the kids to fulfil and when s/he decides to walk a different path, we just oppose. Is it what they deserve? They are individuals, having their own dreams and career goals. Don’t try to mold them as per your wish. Show your support, tell them “I am there in your decision, I support you”! Your kid will be filled with energy and positivity that will help him work better towards his goal. No need to see yourself in your kid, treat him as an individual.
Parents can commit mistakes, it’s quite normal. Parents are also humans. The problem starts when they don’t admit their mistakes. Admit when you made a wrong decision or made a wrong move. Say sorry the same way as you want your kid to do. Not admitting your mistake is a major mistake that you commit and there is no way you can reverse it. Your child will admire you more if you say sorry when you are wrong, in fact, this is the best trust-building exercise.
Last but not the least is to keep telling your kid that you love him/her. They may look like grown-ups, but their desire to be loved by their parents are still the same. You are no more getting enough time to shower your love on them as they have their own priorities, hence tells them whenever you get that “ME TIME” with your kid. They always love to hear those magical words. With the magical words, you can always share your love with cards, gifts, and presents. You could also find some more information, tips, and suggestions on onlinesavingshack.com. Teenage is a difficult phase for both parents and the kids, but some well-thought moves can make this pass easily. Put extra efforts, after all, your kid is worth it! Like it? Share it! |