5 Ways To Avoid Social Anxiety | Muslim Mothers Blog | Hooyos House

Posted by Hooyos House on August 26th, 2019

Having a baby can be the happiest time of our lives, but unfortunately for some mums this isn’t always the case. Having anxiety after pregnancy can happen to the best of us. However, for some mums it can be a real problem, and they may need professional help. Here are some of the signs you should look out for, if you or one of your loved ones have not been feeling like themselves lately.

Anxiety isn’t just about feeling anxious. It’s feeling like something bad is about to happen with no reason. There is no trigger when feeling anxious and stressed, and the feeling won’t go away. These are some of the signs you should look out for.

· A persistent feeling of sadness and low mood

· You no longer have interest in things you used to enjoy

· Feeling tired all the time

· Difficulty sleeping

· Loss of appetite

· Feeling like you can’t look after your little one

· Difficulty bonding with baby

· Frightening thoughts

If you or someone you know may be experiencing these symptoms, encourage them to speak to their GP or health visitor as soon as possible, so you can get the support you need.

Here are some tips I use to avoid social anxiety after birth.

READ QURAN EVERYDAY

Whether you are treating yourself from depression, anxiety or any other mental disease. You need to make sure your reading Qur’anic verses and hadith which are recommended in sharee’ah as a means of ruqya. Ensure you are reading your daily adhkaar, and your reading Quran often. Allah (SWT) says:

“Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.”

(13:28)

When you come across these verses and you believe and trust that Allah Is in control of your life, and you know Allah will give you what is best, all your fears and anxiety will go away. You know someone is looking after you. Pour out all your problems to Allah and he will never let you down. Finally, remember everything passes and how your feeling now won’t be how you are feeling in a couple months’ time. So, this pain you are feeling won’t last forever – hang in there!

HAVE HONEY

Have honey in the morning. Allah (SWT) says:

“Then, eat of all fruits, and follow the says of your Lord made easy (for you). There comes forth from their bellies, a drink of varying colour wherein is healing for men. Verily, in this is indeed a sign for a people who think.”

(16:69)

Honey is known to relieve anxiety, it’s natural and delicious! You can’t go wrong.

ASK FOR HELP

Ask someone for help with the new baby. Having a new person to look after can be very difficult, especially after giving birth. Your body will be sore and tired and your feet will be swollen. Furthermore, Your human and it’s only natural that you would want to sleep. To keep yourself mentally and physically healthy it’s very important to have plenty of rest. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

PAMPER YOURSELF

Having a relaxing day to pamper yourself is important. It’s easy for us women to be so busy with baby that we forget about ourselves. Remember you are important too! Do your hair, put some makeup on – whatever makes you feel good about yourself. When you look good, you feel good, and your baby will thank you for it.

READ ESSENTIAL DUAS

It was narrated Ahmad (3528) from ‘Abdullah ibn Mas‘ood, who said:

The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “No person suffers any anxiety or grief, and says: ‘Allaahumma innee ‘abduka wa ibn ‘abdika wa ibn amatika, naasiyati bi yadika, maadin fiyya hukmuka, ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka, as’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghaybi ‘andak an taj’ala al-Qur’aana rabee’ qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa’a huzni wa dhahaaba hammi (O Allah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your female slave, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every Name belonging to You which You named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the unseen with You, that You make the Qur’an the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety)’ but Allah will take away his sorrow and grief, and give him in their stead joy.” It was said: O Messenger of Allah, should we not learn them (these words)? He said: Yes indeed; whoever hears them should learn them.” 

Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in as-Silsilah as-Saheehah, 199, Ahmad, 3528.

Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in as-Silsilah as-Saheehah, 199. 

EXERSISE

Regular exercise reduces the symptoms of anxiety as it helps to balance the chemicals the body produces when its feeling anxious. Exercise also improves one’s mood and wellbeing. It is a great way to improve sleep, especially during those first couple months after giving birth. Also, we all know how much we are all deprived of sleep when caring for our little bundles of joy when they are first born. It also helps you to get your prepregnancy body back so you can feel better too.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

You’re not the only one. A lot of new mums go through post natal anxiety. It can be very beneficial for you to go to mummy classes after giving birth. These classes can help with ways to help you look after your little one as well as hearing other mums’ experiences. Your child will learn social skills quicker and easier. Also, it’s a great way to network with other mums and babies who are going through the exact same thing.

We ask Allah to protect us and you from the evils of anxiety and worry, and to open our hearts to faith, guidance and tranquillity.

So, what are your personal experiences and how did you overcome them? Please leave me a comment below, I always love and welcome engaging with my followers. Also, if you dont already, follow me on Instagram and tag me in your pics.

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