Guidelines for parents to prevent bullying

Posted by John Smith on November 27th, 2019

We refer to bullying when we talk about situations based on the “inequality” between the aggressor and the victim, in which a domain-submission relationship is established and we can describe it as actions, or behaviors where one or more students insult, defame, they threaten, blackmail, spread rumors, hit, steal, break things, ignore or isolate others systematically and over time. 

These acts produce in those who suffer feelings of helplessness and inferiority.

To do this, a bullying expert proposes the following tips to prevent and detect bullying in time:

Stay tuned for warning signs:

If your child is suffering bullying, it is possible to avoid going to class, is more nervous or withdrawn, has psychosomatic symptoms (gut pain, headaches, vomiting, insomnia, and etc.), his school supplies disappear frequently if he loses interest by studies or performance drops suddenly.

Keep calm:

Talk to him/her about your worries and about your day-to-day life at school, giving you peace of mind. If we do not act calmly, children do not dare to tell their problems for fear of our reaction and to avoid distressing us, and therefore we cannot help them.

Talk to your child about how to solve their problems?

Give some examples of your difficulties and how you have managed to solve them. With this, you are demonstrating two important lessons: that we all have problems, that we are not alone and that we need to tell it to find solutions.

Promote your self-esteem:

The value of being unique and convey that their differences make it unique. Strive to make your child feel very valued and loved, to have a healthy vision of himself/herself and accept their defects realistically.

Get in touch with the school and inform them of the situation:

Schools are obliged to get involved and take action. They must also act in cases of cyberbullying even if the harassment occurs outside the center. You can request a meeting with your child's tutor to tell you about the situation. 

They will implement a protocol of action in which they will intervene: the tutor, guidance counselor of studies and direction, to protect your child to help you, promote healthy social relations and equality, as well as to work with the student / who is harassing. If the harassment is taking place through the New Technologies, there are specialized groups of the Police and Civil Guard who can go to report the situation.

If you are one of the bullying victims, do not hesitate to get in touch with us on Hinduja.org. We are a cyberbullying expert to help you!