Does She Already Have A Child? Deal With It.

Posted by Nick Niesen on October 27th, 2010

You should give unconditional love without any
expectation. When you love somebody
unconditionally, you are ready to do anything for
that person, surely, if she returns your feelings.

However, what happens if your loved one has
already a child? This should not be a problem for
you if you are sure that this relationship is
what you want and you are ready to make all the
sacrifices that perhaps.

Singles that already have a child are very
concerned and choosy about their dating options.
They usually avoid going out and do not accept
very easy a new partner. Dating in these
circumstances is not easy for both partners
because it is very risky. In any moment, it might
happen you find out that she is not truly sincere
with you, because every mother protects her child.

Be realistic and do not pretend it will have no
effect on your potential relationship; it will.
While you are dating, kids will limit the time
you can spend together and put your love life on
a curfew. If things get more serious and long
term, they will play a major role in your
relationship.

If children are part of the family of someone you
are dating, there are unique things you have to
consider.

Dating someone with kids is a matter of
compatibility and acceptance. Therefore, if you
want to get into her family and to be accepted,
you must win their hearts.

Meeting her child is a very important thing in
establishing and maintaining functioning
relationship. However, this should happen only
when you are dating for a while and things become
more and more serious. To extend your
relationship you must form a relationship with
the child. You may start by showing him that you
could be his friend and your relationship will
not hurt him.

So, prepare a meeting out, try to spend more and
more time with the child and make him feel good
with you. Spend time at their place playing games,
watch cartoons. Be aware to the child feelings
and wishes. Make so that some day he will accept
you.

Watch out because children are very difficult, do
complicated things and ask a lot of questions,
that is why you should ask from the beginning
about the child habits to know what to expect at.

Also, be careful at the details. Be sure that
your behavior in front of the kid is appropriate.
In particular, be careful about displaying
physical affection when the child is around. Do
not do anything in front of the kid that would
embarrass you, he will report to the other parent.

Children use their parent?s behavior as a model
for their own lives. The examples you set for
the kid will influence him over a lifetime.

If his biological parent is out of the picture
due to death or divorce, he may use you to
replace his parent and may act angry and hurtful
towards you. Assure him that you do not want to
take his parent place and you know that he is the
most important in his life; you just want to be
more like a friend and to give you a chance to
get into his life.

Discuss with both, mother and child about what
role you will play in their life, this being a
good opportunity for all to express your feelings.
Therefore, you will know what your place is and
how to act in this relationship to make it work.

With some luck and some sacrifices from your side
and not only, you may have the family that you
ever dreamed with the woman you love.