Make the most of online dating

Posted by Nick Niesen on October 27th, 2010

Some time ago people were used not ot take online dating seriously. But now more and more people join online dating agencies and matchmaking services.

There are many points why online dating is actually better than traditional one. It is easy, fast and inexpensive ? you can sit in your comfortable armchair by the fireplace communicate with someone very pleasant and you can share as much time as you like. Moreover it has less rejection rate than a walking up to a stranger in the street, at the bar or club.

So here are some tips for you to take most of an online>dating site.

1. Search for the reliable web site.

There are so many dating sites that it is easy to get confused. So you have to define what exactly you want. Some sites are created for people interested in serious relationships, others - for people searching for lighter non-committal dating, the third ones promote international, intercultural dating or common interests and beliefs relationships.

It's very important to be careful ? some sites are scaming men in order to get money, so you should look for a very reliable service to start you Russian bride research. It will be useful to make some phone calls to make sure that or this site will give you waht you want, it's also important to explain to the matchmaker what woman you want to see as your future bride.

2. Create your dating profile.

The first thing you'll have to do ? is to create your personal dating profile. You will generally be asked to provide some basic information (weight, height, occupation, etc) as well as have an opportunity to talk a little bit about yourself and post some photos.

Sometimes visiting this sites have something in common with job-hunting and so your dating profile and resume may look alike. And indeed, this is your chance to put your best foot forward. Just be honest concerning your description, what you are searching for and what you like and dislike. It will be a lot easier for people to respond, when they can relate to your interests and preferences.

We also recommend to add a picture to your profile - it will make people feel more comfortable and one step closer to getting to know you. The same principle applies to photos ? be honest. Showing a picture that looks nothing like you only puts you at risk of deceiving the person you are interested in and leaves little chances for future relationship after you meet.

3. The search.

Most dating sites offer several criteria by which you can search or browse the profiles. This makes the online date search very convenient.

As goes with tradotional dating, flexibility is always the good way to go. Chances are, you are not going to have Prince Charming pop up on your screen. Leave yourself some room for variation and you will have a lot more results to choose from.

4. Making initial contact.

So, some girl has attracted your attention. What next? With online dating sites you don't have to worry about face to face rejection, so common in the club world. You don't have to stumble over your words and have plenty of time to think of the best way to approach the dashing beauty and learn more about her through her profile.

However, don't write too much ? chances are you won't score many good points for that. Make your first message short and sweet. Be specific:

- if you comment on her looks, mention what you liked (eyes, smile);

- make a point of referencing her profile, it will show her you've read what she has to say and that you are attentive;

- find things in common, it will make it easier to generate a response from her.

My advice is not to write to too many people at once. While all information is nicely stored and kept on the website, it can get quite confusing trying to keep track of who said what and being genuine in your replies. It's best to reply quickly to grab and keep>Russian women's interest. You may also find it helpful to have a folder for each of the ladies you are corresponding with to store photos, correspondence and notes for each one of them.

5. Moving ahead.

You wrote to her and she replied, congratulations! The main thing now is not to get too carried away and remain yourself. Share information about who you are, but also be courteous and take interest in other person's life. Don't try to talk like someone else, you risk sounding artificial and, what's worse, making your date feel disappointed once you communicate over phone or in person. Take it easy, you will know if things are going well!

6. When things aren't as fine as planned.

While there is a high rate of people finding each other, forming strong relationships and getting close, chances are there will be times when the person you are interested in may not reciprocate. Don't take it too close to heart. Whatever reasons they have for not responding or stopping communication, it is their loss. Besides, there is still plenty of fish in the sea, the next of which can happen to be the one you were looking for all along.

Should you be on the other end of the equation and decide to stop communicating with someone, remember one thing: there is never any reason to be rude. Put yourself in that person's shoes and think of what you would NOT want to hear if you were them, consider their feelings.

It is impossible to predict every situation you might encounter in the fast-paced, multifaceted online dating world. But it is possible to make the most of it by being honest, thoughtful, positive, flexible, funny, accurate, and considerate. Be yourself and treat others the way you'd want them to treat you, and you are guaranteed to benefit from online communication any way it goes.

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