Child Sexual Abuse - A Typical Victim

Posted by Tautokomai on March 11th, 2021

Throughout my career I talked to hundreds and hundreds of victims of sexual abuse. I have seen a lot of similarities developing in these victims; the most obvious being that they all appear to be lacking in self-esteem. They are often people who can't look you in the eye, who keep their heads down, especially when dealing with a male police officer. To me, this was hardly surprising if they had been abused by a male of similar age or appearance to me. abused sexual whakatane

Sharing a Secret - How Sexual Abuse Comes to Notice

If we look at how victims come to be at the police station, it is usually because it has been taken out of their control by some other adult. This often takes place because the child has said to a friend at school something like, "My father has been having sex with me, promise you won't tell anybody. I don't want to cause any trouble!" Often the friend will promise not to tell anybody, but then one day the friend is alone with her mother. She has been thinking a lot about her friend's situation. She feels she should do something about it and mentions the problem to her mother. Her mother may then contact the victim's mother or welfare or community services or may even come directly to the police. They say things like, "I don't want to get involved but a friend of my daughter told her that her father is abusing her. You'd better check it out."

I believe the reason why the victims tell a friend is because deep down they don't want to or can't keep it to themselves any longer. They want the abuse to stop. Disclosing the abuse but asking for secrecy is a really difficult position to put a friend in. To tell them something earth-shattering and then expect them not to pass it on is a lot to ask. A large number of victims are reluctant to talk to police initially, so trying to interview and get evidence from them is often difficult. They just want you to go away leave them alone. They may feel unprepared or overwhelmed by the prospect of going to court to give evidence. It is a really sensitive and complicated area to work in. sexually assaulted whakatane

I believe that for the police who do work in this area it is important to try and develop an understanding of the feelings of the victims and how they found themselves in an abusive situation. Investigators need to put aside any frustration they feel when a victim doesn't want to talk to them and instead learn to patiently persist with gathering evidence. There is no case without the evidence of the victim. If he or she is scared off on day one, then serious harm will have been done to any future prosecution should the matter go to court. There are, however, a number of victims who are very willing to assist with a prosecution and who really want to see some retribution against the offender.

These people are very supportive of whatever the police or social workers want to do. I have always made it very clear to all victims and their support networks that the decision to prosecute is theirs. I would never force anybody to have the matter go to court when they didn't want to. When it comes to the crunch it is those people who have to stand in the witness box and give evidence, not the investigator. I encourage anyone working in this area to adopt that approach. If done correctly it should mean you will have co-operative, supportive complainants (and other witnesses), which will also help them to move on from the episode once it is finalised.

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