Control Your Temper And Learn How To Be A Patient Parent
Posted by Mamazen on March 25th, 2021
Are using your cool often with your child’s behaviour? Is the shrieking and screaming during a tantrum leaving you upset and distraught? Misbehaviour is natural when raising children but it can be tough on the senses sometimes. Parents have to bear too much and may want a break or change. They are often looking for ways to deal better with their children and improve their parenting style.
Is it possible? Lots of times we can’t control the child’s behavior and have to give up trying to fix our kids. Why don’t we learn how to be a patient parent instead? We can definitely alter our behavioral patterns while raising children so that they become better adjusted individuals when they grow up.
Factors that can help us learn “how to be a patient parent”?
- While you are dealing with children keep your own feelings in control. Analyze your own behaviour and rationalise whether your angry outburst is a reaction to other frustrating situations. If yes, try to control your words before you scream and rant away. Logical thoughts always help you notice your own feelings and act accordingly.
- Remember your child is not misbehaving on purpose. There must have been some trigger or agitating factor that has upset the child into misbehaving.
- Your child also has feelings and has the right to express them explicitly. The little ones can also have outbursts of temper and mood swings like the elders, cant they? Don’t they deserve some leniency?
- Learn to pause before losing your temper. Try to count up to 10. It actually works and helps you cool down.
- Try to listen to what your child is expressing and demanding before you end up disagreeing and losing your temper. Sometimes the demands are not unjust. Tweak around the situation consciously and mindfully, without acting irrationally and taking out your anger on the child.
- Don’t let the ego come in between rational thinking. Stay calm, composed and control your reaction before taking a decision about the child’s behavior.
- Try to think the child is improving your self-awareness and self-expression. Misbehaviour may be off-putting but it will teach you patience for sure. This practice will make you perfect. Shower your children with love and acceptance rather than try to control them because your ego demands it.
- Talking “at” and yelling “at” children rarely works. Instead try to make your child your best friend by talking “to” him.
- Look into the mirror while you are scolding your kid. You may not like what you see! If you or if you don’t like your contorted and angry face and how can your kid?
Reality bites so take your child to an awakened state naturally and with patience. He is learning from you each step of the way. Give yourself plenty of “me time”, so that you get a chance to rejuvenate your senses. Lower your expectations and accept your child the way he is. Shower him or her with plenty of love, hugs to show your acceptance, and watch your child bloom.