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Posted by Gregoria on April 28th, 2021

Even as a Life Coach, I have my obstacles with my three teens. Talking and having regular conversations is the crucial element for effective parenting. Just today when I had the exact same stuck state with my youngest daughter now 14. I attempted to stay as calm as I can. I was grieving how I entered into this stuck state. She seemed to be venting about how irritating I was. When I asked her what was the annoying part, she might not associate with the particular occurrences.

Perception

She shared that when she talk with me, she felt that I thought it was a wild-goose chase and leave. It's so interesting to hear how she view what I do. I walk away believing she did not require an answer from me and also when I hear her tone of voice that sounded mad. I did not want to remain in that energy and get activated into being angry myself. We talked about facial expressions and intonation. She felt that she was not upset. So we had various perception and point of view. The good thing was we were speaking our minds.

Empathise

Finally, what she desired from me was to empathise by stating "Relax. relax, each time when she complain about something or is stressed out." All she desired is for me to listen right through and comfort her! That was an insight, a reminder not to be distressed by her intonation or venting. Not to believe that she desires a solution. That was a mini-revelation.

Understanding each other

I said to her that it is extremely essential to keep having a dialogue like this so that we get to understand each other better. We do have downs and ups , and there is no warning. We talked a bit about my menopause and her hormones changes. How these changes in our body can play havoc to our moods. The most essential is to go back to the basics. Just workout and let the hormones balance. The other important thing is to forgive and let go of our past stories so that we do not spiral into drama.

The ups and downs belongs to the journey and that's how we alter, find out and grow . By continuing to talk, have discussions like this, that is the secret to effective parent and teens relationships. Relationships are established through the effort we took into our communications. Comprehending what each other is thinking.

Do not bring your role from work to home

she said, "There is no such thing as perfect parent." I totally agreed with her. She added, "I simply want you to be a typical parent." I was questioning what is a typical parent. Then she said, "Just like when you are a principal, when you go home don't end up being a principal, so rigorous with your children." Ha! I got it. She said, "Don't bring your training thing house." We just do not want to hear you training us. Thanks for advising me!

Positive Feedback

I shared with her that I am extremely happy with her, highlighting how she have lists for her to-do-list. How she kept to her word. When she speak calmly, I like it. The ending was sweet. She fried omelet for me. My feedback to her was that this small gesture showed Discover more that she cares for me and I am very grateful, I like it. Time to commemorate.

Just this morning when I had the very same stuck state with my youngest daughter now 14. I was grieving how I got into this stuck state. When I asked her what was the annoying part, she might not relate to the particular events.

Simply workout and let the hormones balance. We just do not desire to hear you training us.

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