Why Men Should Watch Porn For Women

Posted by Soto Kent on May 21st, 2021

Yes, pornography can improve your sex life and your connection. You simply have to watch the right kind.

Like most guys, Alex*, 42, watched a great deal of porn. The things he watched, he told, followed a very specific formula:"show a nude woman, followed closely by close-up shots of her vagina and breasts, then show her going down on him before he relentlessly pounds into her."

Also like most guys, Alex took lots of his sexual cues out of porn, and tried to copy what he had seen when he had sex with his then-wife. However, their sex life finally became such a massive source of conflict and miscommunication they eventually divorced.

He started reading women's erotica as a means to"research what girls want." He was surprised to discover something which's probably obvious to many women, but was shocking for himporn for a female audience was a lot distinct than pornography for men. What was surprising? He liked it even more than the porn he had been watching for years.

"Porn for girls" is a relatively new genre, but it's becoming extremely popular. Nearly one-third of girls between the ages of 18 and 26 have reported seeing porn, and in accordance with no more reliable a barometer of American sexual preferences than Pornhub Insights ,"porn for women" was the very best trending search of 2017, rising by 1400% that year. The last few years have seen the launch of sites like Bellesa, For The Tube, Lady Cheeky, and Romantic Porn Hub (links NSFW), which comprise videos specifically meant for a female audience. Director Erika Lust's website XConfessions also features short films inspired by actual women's sexual fantasies, shot and produced by a mostly female team .

Broadly ,"if folks say'pornography for women,' what they really mean is pornography that doesn't have so much focus on penetration, where the sex is more linked, often story-driven, or'softer,''' says renowned adult movie director Jacky St. James . "There's a concentrate more on sex where there is a good deal of foreplay, kissing, link. The light is more light and airy. The men are more attractive (conventionally speaking) and the women are more normal in body type and overall style." ("Porn for girls" also tends to feature a lot of lesbian sex: women are 445% more likely than men to search for"girl on girl" porn, based on some 2014 report, even though they mostly self-identify as directly.)

Porn for women also tends to concentrate on the couple's mutual pleasure, St. James adds. "There is more of a focus on realistic-looking orgasms and overall connection." Unlike POV porn scenes, where the guy's head is frequently cut away and"it's just a thrusting chest," pornography for women usually features"more of this guy's involvement in the scene.

Like Alex, Will*, 35, says that he began searching for "female-friendly" pornography because he wished to become a better sex partner for his wife. " romantic porn, romantic xxx, hot romantic sex, porn for women did not have a great deal of sexual experience once we got serious. She never complained, but I needed to make certain I left her feel as special, fulfilled, and loved as I did," he states.

Will was amazed to discover he enjoyed it over the porn he usually watched. "The connections between the performers seem more genuine. . .there's kissing and raw sensuality. The couples grin at each other. There is fewer acrobatic positions, therefore the actors really have time to enjoy each other. I have found the whole thing a turn-on."

Gabe*, 32, says watching porn produced by and for girls helped him gain a better understanding of what turns his spouses on. "It focuses on facial expressions and whole body movements, whereas traditional porn concentrates on balancing and penetration your own genitals into each other," he says.

While most mainstream pornography videos geared toward men skipped foreplay completely and jumped directly into penetrative sexual intercourse, Gabe found that porn for women focused more on sexual intercourse and clitoral stimulation, which studies demonstrate is crucial to helping girls achieve orgasm . "I absolutely prefer it on any other [kind of pornography ]," he states.

Obviously, just like men, women's sexual preferences differ tremendously, so there is not one single definition of exactly what"porn for women" actually is: while one girl could possibly be into narrative-driven, high-budget, soft-core content, yet another may enjoy watching rougher, kinkier, more intense fare.

"You cannot lump an entire sex to a certain type of porn," St. James says. "I know quite a few women who like hardcore porn. I know a good deal of girls directing this fashion of porn because it appeals to them. If you are a girl that enjoys rougher sex, getting choked, rape fantasies, etc., then you are completely normal. Just because we do not call that'pornography for girls' doesn't mean it is not porn for women."

"My partner said a great deal of pornography for girls appeared too tender. She favors rough stuff and also a little BDSM," says Blake*, 41. "It wasn't for her."

But if your spouse is switched off by quote-unquote"female-friendly" erotica, getting to know their taste in porn can make it easier to discuss what turns them on. It can also help men explore their own sexual preferences and preferences. "My spouse shared that she likes watching male homosexual porn or bisexual porn with male-on-male interaction. I learned quite a bit, to be honest," adds Ryan,* who's 38. "It enabled us to talk about situations and wants that we may never have been comfortable talking prior." (It also led to them trying out threesomes IRL.)

For Alex, watching porn for girls has completely changed the way he has sex in real life. Due to his research, he feels much more confident and attuned to his partner's needs through intercourse. "I strive very hard to stay current in the moment together," he states. "I also don't do the jackhammer thing that seemingly a lot of men do." That said, Alex notes he hasn't been watching much pornography of any kind lately.

*Names have been changed to allow subjects to speak freely on private matters.

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