Why Men Should Watch Porn For Women

Posted by Tierney Termansen on May 21st, 2021

What Guys Could Learn From Watching"Porn for Women"

Yes, pornography can enhance your sex life and your connection. You simply need to see the right kind.

The stuff he watched, he advised, followed a very specific formula:"reveal a naked lady, followed by close-up shots of her breasts and vagina, then reveal her going down on him until he relentlessly pounds into her."

Also like most guys, Alex took lots of his sexual cues from porn, and tried to replicate what he'd seen when he had sex with his then-wife. However, their sex life eventually became such a massive source of conflict and miscommunication they eventually divorced.

He started reading women's erotica for a way to"research what women want." He was amazed to discover something that's probably obvious to many women, but was shocking for him: porn for a female audience was a lot different than porn for guys. What was surprising? He enjoyed it even over the pornography he'd been watching for years.

"Porn for women" is a relatively new genre, but it is becoming extremely popular. The past few years have seen the launching of websites like Bellesa, For Her Tube, Lady Cheeky, and Romantic Porn Hub (links NSFW), which comprise videos specifically meant for a female audience. Director Erika Lust's website XConfessions also includes short films inspired by real women's sexual fantasies, shot and made by a mostly female crew .

Generally ,"when folks say'porn for ladies,' what they really mean is pornography that doesn't have so much focus on penetration, in which the gender is more linked, often story-driven, or'softer,''' says renowned adult movie director Jacky St. James . "There is a concentrate more on sex where there's a good deal of foreplay, kissing, link. The lighting is more light and airy. The guys are more conventionally attractive (conventionally speaking) and the women are more natural in body type and total style." ("Porn for girls" also tends to feature a lot of lesbian sex: girls are 445 percent more likely than men to search for "girl on girl" porn , based on some 2014 report, even though they largely self-identify as straight.)

Porn for girls also tends to focus on the couple's mutual pleasure, St. James adds. "There is more of a focus on realistic-looking orgasms and general connection." Contrary to POV porn scenes, in which the guy's mind is often cut away and"it is just a thrusting chest," porn for women usually includes"more of the man's participation from the scene. You see his face, his expressions too."

Like Alex, Will*, 35, says that he started searching for "female-friendly" pornography because he wished to be a better sex partner for his wife. "I did not have a lot of sexual experience when we got severe. She never complained, however, I needed to make sure that I made her feel as special, fulfilled, and adored as I did so," he says.

Will was amazed to find he appreciated it over the pornography he usually watched. " romantic porn, romantic xxx, hot romantic sex, porn for women between the performers seem more genuine. . .there's kissing and raw sensuality. The couples grin at each other. There is fewer acrobatic positions, therefore the actors really have enough time to enjoy each other. I have found the whole thing a turn-on."

Gabe*, 32, says watching porn made by and for girls helped him gain a better understanding of exactly what turns his spouses on. "It focuses on facial expressions and whole body motions, whereas conventional porn focuses on balancing and penetration your genitals into each other," he states.

While most mainstream pornography videos geared toward guys skipped foreplay completely and jumped right into penetrative sex, Gabe discovered that pornography for girls focused more on sexual intercourse and clitoral stimulation, which studies have shown is critical to helping women achieve orgasm . "I totally prefer it over any other [kind of pornography ]," he says.

Of course, just like men, women's sexual tastes vary tremendously, which means there's not one single definition of exactly what"porn for women" actually is: while one girl may become narrative-driven, high-budget, soft-core content, another might enjoy watching rougher, kinkier, more intense fare.

"You cannot lump an whole sex into a certain type of pornography," St. James says. "I know quite a few girls who enjoy hardcore porn. I know a lot of girls directing this fashion of porn because it appeals to them. If you're a woman that enjoys rougher sex, getting choked, rape fantasies, etc., then you are completely normal. Just because we do not call that'pornography for girls' doesn't mean it's not porn for women."

Blake*, 41, insists. "My spouse said a lot of porn for girls seemed too soft. She heavily favors rough stuff and also a little BDSM," says Blake*, 41. "It wasn't for her."

But if your partner is switched away with quote-unquote"female-friendly" erotica, getting to understand their taste in pornography can make it a lot easier to talk about what turns them on. Additionally, it may help guys explore their own sexual preferences and preferences. "My spouse shared that she enjoys watching male gay porn or bisexual pornography with male-on-male interaction. I heard quite a bit, to be honest," adds Ryan,* who's 38. "It enabled us to talk about situations and desires that we may never have been comfortable discussing prior."

For Alex, seeing porn for women has completely altered the way he has sex in real life. Thanks to his research, he feels much more confident and attuned to his partner's needs through sex. "I strive very hard to stay present in the moment together," he says. "I also don't do exactly the jackhammer thing that seemingly a lot of men do." That said, Alex notes he has not been watching much pornography of any kind lately. He says he's too busy doing the real thing.

*Names have been changed to allow topics to talk freely on private matters.

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