How to convince parents for a love marriage?

Posted by Harpreet Singh on November 4th, 2022

In this world, everyone has the freedom to select their life partner based on their preferences. When a person locates a perfect life partner who resonates with them, and they sense a connection with them, then there will be everything alright in a relationship. But, this is not normal in Indian culture, as marriages are arranged by the parents in India, and love marriages are not accepted.  Marriage, especially in India, is considered a sacred relationship, and it holds a very respectable place in Indian people's eyes. Therefore, in this modern era, young people still follow the advice of their elders while getting married. Because parents' approval of marriage is very important.

You fall in love with someone because all the qualities you want in your partner are possessed by the person with whom you are in love. But, your parents don't know them at all, though. Helping them understand why this person is the appropriate life partner for you. In order to, persuade your parent, exhibit your partner's best traits to them such as their nature, skill for cooking, emotional maturity, or financial stability. But due to modernization and over time, there has been a big difference between the thinking of children and parents, who often have a differing take on marriage.

The following are some different methods to convince parents for love marriage:

Communicate with your parents: In this modern world everyone is busy in their own lives, and people don't have time for their family, which leads to the communication barrier. This widens the distance between the parents and the children. So, it's time to overcome this obstacle and become friends with your parents if you want to persuade them to allow you to wed someone you love. Spend time with them and keep in mind that your partner will benefit from your positive relationship with them as well.

Although children adore their parents nowadays they give priority to their friends, studies, and personal lives, and the communication gap is increased between them. So, spend quality time with your parents and share your experiences with them. As you want your parents to support your decision because you've already made up your mind to wed the person of your choice.

Ensure them about the compatibility with your partner: Compatibility is another important factor that people consider while selecting of life partner.  So, you need to ensure your parents that your partner will be compatible with the family and there will be no disputes occurred between them. As, beyond other things like caste, family history, and financial capability, compatibility is a far deeper concept.

You should be financially independent: If you want to marry to your own choice, then you have to be financially independent. You have to be able to afford the expenses of your partner after marriage. If you are financially independent, then there are more chances that your parents will support you in your love marriage and accept your partner.

Be a mature and responsible child: Behave responsible and mature enough, so that your parents can have faith in your judgment. Assure that your parents are aware of your willingness to accept the challenges that come after marriage and your willingness to persist in the face of difficulty. The more responsible you appear, the more respect you receive.

Arrange a meeting between you and your partner's parents: This will help you a lot, as it is the most important thing to create comfort between your own family and your partner. So, arrange a meeting with your parents and set up dates once your family has begun to like and trust your partner. It can be challenging, but not impossible, to convince some traditional and wary parents. Just remember that throughout this time you must understand your parents' decision and their feelings and always be patient and positive because every parent wants that their child will be happy in their life.

Do not make any decision in hurry: If the conversation doesn't go your way, don't act hastily. It's understandable to feel angry if your parents do not accept your partner. Give them some time to understand your situation. Be patient for a few months because this is a major issue.

These are the various ways by which you can easily convince your parents for love marriage.