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Posted by talktojames andrews on August 16th, 2017

What Is Talk to James Andrews?

Talk to James Andrews is a premium talk and chat service.  James provides emotional support and guidance for people facing everyday challenges.  

With superior emotional intelligence and effective communication - James Andrews understands your issues, provides critical insights, and helps you move forward in a positive way.

Get to Know You, Get to Know Me

Meaningful conversation is one of the most invigorating experiences I have.  Making a connection, establishing rapport, and exchanging information is not just fun and interesting for me - it also serves a useful purpose.  It gives me the opportunity to learn about myself. Learning through teaching as I like to call it.

The people I talk to consider me a teacher, a coach, someone who offers them perspective.  But the reality is I probably learn more from them than the other way around.    I can usually identify a lot of myself in the stories they tell and the experiences they share.   The "whos" "whys" and "whats" of my own life come into focus and I find deeper understanding.   Conversation nurtures me and I grow. 

When you listen, you're open and you're not afraid to be wrong, one of the things that happens is you end up challenging your own beliefs and assumptions about things.  Maybe you know yourself pretty well and you know who you are, but if you're smart, you also recognize you can know a lot more.   

If it is true that self knowledge is the beginning of wisdom -- Then insight is the beginning of self knowledge.  For me, the more I know, the better I will be.  The better I will be the the more I can do, and the further I will go. 

What Does Your Communication Incentivize?

Want to understand how the economy works?  Start by looking at it through the prism of incentives. 

Incentives are feedback mechanisms that provide information to someone.  They create reasons to do things - they shape how and why choices are made.  

Higher prices incentivize more production.  Lower tariffs establish incentives for more trade -- and so the theory goes. 

Have you ever considered that your communication - the way you choose to talk (words + tone + body language) listen, respond, react - creates powerful incentives?  It's absolutely so. 

The way you choose to communicate with anyone will dictate how they feel about you.  The way you make them feel will determine your level connection, and the things they want to share with you - or not. 

I get it all the time - James, how can I get through to someone better?  how can I get someone to open up and want to share with me?  How do I connect with someone on a more meaningful level?

The answer is simple.  Create better incentives with your communication.   Ask more questions - listen better - be open -- make the person feel good about sharing, talking, being real.  Once you create these positive feelings in people, they will associate them with you. 

Think about anyone in your life and the relationship you have  - positive or negative.   Your perception, the way you feel about them is primarily a function of how well you are able to communicate. 

Just as an economy grows and thrives with the proper incentives  - so too will your communication. The outcome is better, stronger happier, closer, more meaningful relationships.

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