HOW TO BUILD A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR EXPosted by Aylward Game Solicitors on January 4th, 2019 BUILDING THE ‘BUSINESS RELATIONSHIP’ OF PARENTINGTHE KIDS AND I ARE FINE… BUT I DREAD TALKING TO MY EX!Studies have shown that after separation you may have a lot of different feelings towards your ex-partner, or be left with guilt or anger. These feelings can last several years, particularly if you found the break-up difficult and hard to accept. Meanwhile, you are probably trying to be a good parent. Fighting with the other parent makes it hard for both of you. The effect on children may include anxiety and distress or problems at school. None of these are positive outcomes. WHAT CAN I DO TO CHANGE THE WAY WE RELATE?
HOW DO I TALK TO MY EX ABOUT THE KIDS?Finding new ways to talk to the other parent can be difficult. It can be harder to respect each other’s point of view than when you were together. But it is worth it. Children feel reassured when they know their mum and dad can calmly discuss the best way to look after them. Your kids need your support in getting on with their own lives knowing they’re not caught in the middle. If you can’t spend a few minutes chatting at the end of contact or at a school function, you can practice being respectful, saying hello, and avoiding conflict (in public)! Kids appreciate it when mum and dad ‘try getting on with one another’. If you can, talk in a relaxed, neutral place such as a local coffee shop or cafe. This way you are both more likely to be polite with one another. If you live a far distance apart then make a time to talk on the phone (when the kids aren’t around to listen in).
WE’RE MEETING SOON. HOW CAN I MAKE SURE IT GOES OK?Arrange the time and place without involving the children. Have a game plan to help you stay on track. Prepare some notes you can look at. BEFORE THE MEETING:
AT THE MEETING:
IN CASE OF CONFLICT:
WHAT ELSE CAN I DO TO PREPARE TO BUILD A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR EX?
THINGS YOU CAN BOTH DO:
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