Alleviating family tensions to get through Indian wedding planning

Posted by riteshjn on March 12th, 2019

Indian weddings are joyous occasions with lots of religious ceremonies, music, dance, partying and enjoyment. They bring together old friends, family members and establish a bond between two families. Preparations for the weddings begin as soon as the alliance between the couple is finished. Most of the banquet halls in Chattarpurand Delhi area are booked for marriages almost a year in advance. Wedding plans generally begin months before the actual wedding date. Planning a wedding becomes a family affair and when views become controversial issues, there is tension at home between members.

Here are some tips on alleviating the tensions within the family during wedding planning:

At the very beginning of the alliance, it would be worthwhile if the two families could cordially meet and have a plan chalked out as to what are the expectations from each other. This becomes even more important if both families are from different communities or from different economic strata. This would ward off any chances of sudden demands later which may be difficult to handle. The number of events to be held, how many guests to be expected from each side and what religious customs are expected to be followed should be clearly discussed and agreed upon.

 Many times, particularly in typical joint families, there can be serious differences on how much to spend and who is going to spend it. If you are planning your own wedding then it’s best for you to remain neutral on the issue and let the senior members of the family decide. If it’s possible and you are earning yourself, you could discuss with the senior family member and offer to fund some amount. This may ease out some burden off their shoulders and relieve the tension.

There are bound to be suggestions from family and friends and even from people who don’t really matter regarding minor and major issues of the marriage. You may have some dreams of your own marriage and your family may have some different idea. It may be a good idea for the couple to meet & first discuss what they have in mind for their wedding. It may be required for you to be firm on some issues and convey to your family and insist on those issues and be flexible on other issues and go as per their plans. Being too rigid on all issues is bound to build up tensions in the family. One needs to be reasonable, understanding and flexible then only the tensions can be alleviated.

In Indian marriages, there are societal expectations as well. The younger generation may not give heed to them but many of the decisions taken during the initial planning are driven by it. Right from the clothing Brands you ought to be wearing, your menu should include non-veg or not, there should be a cocktail or not and many other minor decisions are influenced by the societal expectations. These again can be resolved by finding a mid-path instead of standing rigid on ones demand. Respect the fact that your family belongs to society and their thoughts are influenced by it. It’s best to let others take charge and execute the marriage, guided by traditional beliefs and rituals, while you savor the limelight and have a relaxed, wonderful time. There is no other stress buster for the family than the smile and contentment on your face especially at your wedding venue