How To Start A Conversation With A Girl You Like, Like A Gentleman

Posted by Goodluck Umukoro on October 23rd, 2019

It’s impossible to start a crush, fling, or relationship without actually having a conversation! The problem is, someone has to start that conversation, which can be challenging. Even the most confident of people can turn into a puddle of goo when it comes to starting a conversation with someone they like. If you’re not sure how to start a conversation with a girl you like, it’s likely become a huge mental wall to overcome.

Now, I am a girl, so I’m going to share my pearls of wisdom with you. This is advice you can trust, because although every girl is different, there are certain things which are extremely annoying and cringe-worthy when someone tries to start a conversation with you.

Avoid those things and there’s no reason why you can’t strike up a beautiful friendship, which may become more!

There are two situations we need to cover here. Starting up a chat with a girl you have your eye on in person, and doing the same via social media. Without a doubt, the virtual option is much easier, because you can hide behind your phone/tablet/laptop and disappear if it doesn’t go well!

Despite that, there are still just as many pitfalls, and the false sense of confidence that a keyboard can give you might just be your undoing! Let’s cover both, with the dos and don’ts to bear in mind.

How to approach a girl you like

Some of us still prefer the old school route, but having someone approach you and start talking to you can be just as nerve-racking. What are you supposed to say back? There’s no time to prepare!

The bottom line is that if you’re going to start a conversation with a girl you like in person, watch your body language and fake the confidence that you don’t feel.

Things to remember:

– Make eye contact first and add a smile

– Read their body language and decide whether you should approach them or not

– Watch your body language and make sure it doesn’t become defensive, e.g. arms crossed over the body, avoiding eye contact because you’re nervous

– Do not approach her while she is with her friends, unless you want an extremely uncomfortable experience!

– Remember to keep smiling, but not to the point where it looks like someone superglued a smile on your face

Now you know how to approach the girl, let’s cover how to start a conversation with a girl you like.

How to start a conversation with a girl you like in person

There is one thing you need to remember: be real. Just be yourself, seriously. There is nothing more annoying than a person coming over to you and trying to be something they’re not. Of course she doesn’t know you yet, but she’s not stupid, and she can tell if you’re being fake. Women have a great intuition, remember!

For me, someone trying to start a conversation with me by looking smug and overconfident is a huge attention killer. I simply want to get away from them–fast! So, just be normal. Smile, and say something akin to small talk, such as ‘this queue is taking forever’ with a smile, or ‘this weather is really something, isn’t it?’

It depends how forward you want to be. The small talk option is going to take you longer to get to the point where you can express your interest. If you’re fine with that, and many girls will be happy with that too, then small talk is your way forward.

Throw in some compliments. We love compliments, but make sure they’re not fake. Don’t go telling her that her eyes are like the stars or any of those annoying chat up lines, just keep it real. Something like ‘I love that color on your dress’, or ‘those shoes are great.’ Normal things!