Use Condom To Practice Safe And Protected Anal Sex

Posted by Getiton on July 5th, 2012

The idea of anal sex can be a tad confronting for some people. Why? Perhaps because toilet training is one of the earliest lessons we get, and we get the message that our arse is a dirty, nasty place from before we can talk.

But there’s a whole world waiting to be discovered down there, a world of great horny fun. And most gay guys know exactly what we’re talking about. The taboos surrounding anal sex are not well founded when you think about it, because every sex organ is used to put rubbish out of the body - the vagina and the penis are both used to get rid of waste as well as for fun, and they both need a bit of loving care and attention to keep them attractive. But the arse gets an unwarranted amount of bad press.

You can see why from a purely practical point of view: if you don't clean yourself out first it isn't that much fun for either party. But a lot of the stigma around it has to do with the idea of a man getting fucked up the arse. Why? Well, some people think that being the receptive partner is somehow feminine, so a guy getting fucked up the arse is less of a man. "Fuck you!" is not usually used as a friendly "hello" - it's about showing who the boss is. So one man fucking another man seems to turn the world upside down for some straight people.

Straight guys seem either completely turned off or rather intrigued by it. We’ve overheard conversations with straight guys explaining why getting screwed is fun. Yes, it's better if whoever is getting rooted has cleaned out; No, if it's done right it doesn't hurt; Yes, you will have a very intense orgasm; No, it doesn't turn you gay; No, not all gay guys are into it.

Two guys screwing is also an act of real love, care and pleasure. Few things equal the pleasure and joy of giving and getting love and getting to know the man you love deeply over time. It’s still important to use condoms in a relationship. Many gay couples have open relationships where they fuck with others, but are emotionally involved only with their partner. Most of us aren’t that great at talking about sex easily and comfortably, especially if we’ve had unsafe sex outside the relationship. Love and trust won’t protect you from HIV if he’s been sleeping around but is too shy or guilty to tell you he slipped up. Protect yourself and the man you love by using condoms, every time!

If you’re being fucked for the first time, it’s important that you’re comfortable and know what you’re doing. Everybody has a first time, and this “how to have anal sex video” has all you need to make sure it’s fun, sexy, safe and not something you wish you could forget.

About the Author:

Joe Rich is the Spokesperson of Get it On! Through Get it On! He is trying to encourage all gay and bisexual men to use condoms and lube every time they have sex.  Get it On! is a community-focused, Social Marketing programme that aims to build a condom culture across New Zealand.

Contact Information:

Joe Rich

Senior Marketer

New Zealand AIDS Foundation

+64 9 300 6967

joe.rich@nzaf.org.nz