How do I respond if someone asks me to bareback?Posted by Getiton on September 1st, 2012 If you have gay sex, chances are eventually you'll hook up with a guy who will try and convince you to bareback. And it can be a little tempting. It certainly excites some people - it can feel a bit dirty and risky, it can uncover issues of trust and love (“If you really trust me...”) or maybe you're both just pretty wasted and he is pushing for it. Don't do it. While you most likely aren't going to get HIV every time you fuck without a condom, if you get into the habit of fucking without rubber, your chances of contracting HIV go through the roof. Not many HIV positive guys can look back and say "That is the time I got infected, that night with that guy at that place." It's a bit like trying to figure out which cigarette gave you cancer. And like cigarettes and cancer, it's not so much which one caused it; it's the habit of smoking, or in this case, the habit of fucking bareback. Guys might use all sorts of arguments to try and get you to do it. But is it really worth it? If you're the bottom, we’d put money on it that you really can't tell the difference. If you're the top, it might slow you down a bit, but isn't that better than getting or giving HIV? How do you know someone is negative? Even if he shows you a test result that he tested HIV negative, there is no guarantee he still is. And if he's so keen on having bareback sex with you, think of everyone else he has tried to do it with (and maybe succeeded with). If he's that keen on fucking all over town without condoms, then the chances that he has HIV or another STI increase rapidly. Life without HIV is much better than life with it. Even with all the advances in medical treatment and technology, it is still not pleasant to live with HIV and you really don't want it. The best way to stay HIV negative is to make condoms an automatic part of your sex-life. Always by the bed or in your bag, keep them somewhere convenient, and use them. If a guy really pushes you and wants bareback, be prepared to stand your ground and walk away if you need to. If he values you as more than a sex object, he'll want what's best for you and listen to you. No matter how hot he is, your health is worth a lot more.There are many more guys who you can have incredible sex with and stay safe. Click here for the top 10 lines we hear from guys wanting unsafe sex, and some brilliant comebacks. About the Author: Joe Rich is the Spokesperson of Get it On! Through Get it On! He is trying to encourage all gay and bisexual men to use condoms and lube every time they have sex. Get it On! is a community-focused, Social Marketing programme that aims to build a condom culture across New Zealand. At www.getiton.co.nz, get information about the unsafe gay bareback sex.Gay and bisexual men can order free condoms and lube to be delivered to their home in a discreet, unmarked envelope. Contact Information: Joe Rich Like it? Share it! More by this author |