Work-Life Balance De-MystifiedPosted by talk2Medebrief on August 7th, 2014 I am reminded of a client who sat in my consulting room a while back: “My partner religiously leaves the office at 5.30pm every day and boasts to his staff about the need for work-life balance.” “And how is that for you?” I ask, in true therapist fashion. “Total rubbish,” was the reply, “He comes home, grunts at me and the kids, parks himself in front of the TV and answers work emails all night. He is physically there, but mentally and emotionally he is still at the office.” She raises a very good question. What is work-life balance? It is heralded as something desirable; something that is going to benefit us and promote an overall sense of well-being, but what exactly is it? Is maintaining work-life balance actually a function of time spent at work vs. time spent outside of work or is there more to it? Clearly, for my client it is not a function of time. “I would much rather have one hour of him being completely attentive and engaged with us, than 5 hours of him being distracted.” So here are 3 ideas to help you create the balance:
The beauty of the Third Space is that you get to choose what is going to help you to make the transition. For many people, debriefing really helps, which is where a service like Talk2Me can really help (www.talk2me.com.au ). It is a phone service that has been recently set up so that people can call in after work and debrief their day before arriving home. Other people exercise between work and home as a way of getting the day out of their system. I know of one lady who has a certain landmark near her house. She allows herself to debrief her work day up until she reaches the landmark, but once she has passed it, she leaves the day behind her and mentally prepares for the home space.
So in summary, creating work-life balance is largely a function of knowing how to transition between work and home, and being intentional about it. There is always going to be more work than work-day. And let’s be honest, it’s not our family’s fault if we’ve had a bad day. Learn how to ‘round off’ each space. Be deliberate about changing hats. And when you are with the ones you love, be WITH them. You will be better at work, and better at home.
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